Responsibility is a touchy subject for most individuals. It speaks of maturity, fault taking, and correcting any past events that have gone haywire or making decisions to prevent such things. This in essence has been deemed as challenging for most people; I believe because they do not know the freedom there is in taking responsibility. In light, responsibility is liberating, when perceived the right way. We all know, or at least should know by now, perception is the key manufacturer of any belief. A shift in perception accounts for many things we categorize as “norms.” Norms are just a simpler term for beliefs we hold to as a society. These are the same beliefs that have been shape and cultivated by perception. If I may make myself clear, I say perception as in, how you go about understanding the world or certain views you take to a situation that determine the beliefs you hold to.
so, whats the big deal about responsibility?
Perception and responsibility have a direct relationship as seen in my model below:
When you think about it, having the viewpoint of “all that has happened to me I am responsible for” gives the power back to you. For example, if two people were to get into a disagreement and person A believes they have played a part in the bump and intends to fix it while person B believes person A is to blame for the entire situation, person B yields all of their power to person A ,while person b harbors the power to completely change the situation. You see how powerful that is? Blaming others for things that go wrong, leaves it up to the other person to change the situation, which gives them the power while you forfeit all yours .
Changing your perception, shapes and cultivates your beliefs which in turn helps you to regain your power by helping you to take responsibility for the condition of your life. Once responsibility is taken, you can then begin to create the life you want in all it’s abundance.
Responsibility is not bad or anything to fear. It is a big portion of life that is overlooked. There is freedom here. There is creation here.
I am a person who loves to talk. Mainly because, talking allows me to understand things I’ve, more than likely, been trying to solve in my mind. The issue with this is, I leave a lot of space open for feeling irritated, and frustrated, by another’s lack of interest. In reality, no one really cares what you are talking about unless it applies to them in some form.
So why do I, or we, continue to talk when people are the least bit concerned?
I explored this reasoning today when I was talking with a friend. She seemed really unconcerned and more along the lines of irritated. I, trying to be a “good” friend, probed by asking her what was wrong. I even went as far as telling her my thoughts about her silence. How frustrating right? Why couldn’t I just leave it alone? Well, I believe it has a lot to do with not knowing, so I pursued and pushed even though I should have just allowed myself to “be” quiet. To “be” is miraculous in itself.
To “be” for me is to release all things to allow myself to “be” in the moment. It is a relief and present that is experienced when we just allow things to flow by resisting not. A perfect way to “be” is to “be” quiet. If you are like me, then you probably feel extremely exposed when you talk too much- because you are. It is unhealthy to talk so much. It is beneficial to “be” quiet because it allows you to experience the present in perfect harmony. Chatter takes you out of the present and into another dimension that is loud.
the “present” the “gift”
One lesson that can be taken from my experience is , “much talk invites much hurt.” The less you talk the more peace you draw and the more abundant you become. Today, I want to share with you all who can relate. Think deep and hard about why you talk so much and what the outcome of talking too much is. I hope you can find the peace you need in “being” quiet sometimes.
School has been challenging lately. Mainly because I have allowed my work to build up. It has not been because I have been careless or just too busy with other things to make it happen, it has more to do with stress. School is stressful. At times I want to hide and I do a pretty good job of this by playing hide and seek from my work. So, why is school so stressful? And how does this concept of how school is stressful relate to other areas of my life? Let’s dive in shall we?
Stressful situations will make most of us run. Anything that presents itself and seems too big to conquer, steers the majority of us to the door or the quickest escape route. Why? I do believe I’ve come up with the answer. I’d say it is our lack of focus, more specific, our lack of focus on one thing at a time. It is such a simple concept, but at the same time complex. Once focus in one area at a time is mastered you will experience less stress and tension in your life.
Tonight I was working on my lab for one of my upper division courses. As I was working on my lab, I found myself getting extremely frustrated. I could not for the life of me shake off the stress and frustration. I took breaks to quiet my mind only to return and have the same feelings. How intensely frustrating right? I eventually quit and went to bed. As I laid in my bed I asked myself what I truly wanted. I began to write my feelings down in my journal. As I wrote, I realized I wanted to do my work in ease of mind, body, and spirit and banish the stress and anxiety that overwhelmed me when I work on my school assignments. I wrote down that “I want to stop taking in everything at once and learn to tap into my ability to focus on one things at a time until I have mastered and completed that task.” Then and only then would I move on. It was at this moment I realized what exactly I had been doing all along. I was taking on the entire assignment at once. I mean the entire thing! Before I finished reading question number 1 I was already thinking about the end. How shocking.
As I sit here typing away, I am compelled to think of other areas in my life this focus concept applies to. What areas have I experienced intense frustration? What areas do I avoid? Because I just might be taking on the full task at once. I am super excited to apply this concept to my life and cannot wait to see results! I hope you all will join me!
I was inspired today by my recent midterm experience to write this blog. Overgeneralizing has been a flaw in my life for some time now. I believe my heart is now become receptive to the meaning of overgeneralizing and how to put it into perspective. I hope my experience can help some of you, in all parts of your life.
Last night, as I laid in bed, a thought flashed in my mind that passing or not passing a test was not a determining factor of my intelligence. In other words, if I were to get a low score on a test, it does not mean that I am a dumb person. What it means is that my knowledge of the topic is not up to where it needs to be. These are simply areas I need to focus on to expand my knowledge. The thought of this was so liberating for me. As I pondered this concept, I became more peaceful about my college experience. It was almost like the universe was telling me that I had a second chance!
Today as I think about what flashed into my mind last night, I wonder does this apply to my entire life? If my husband does not tell me that he loves me does that mean I’m not lovable? If I have a terrible day does that mean my life is horrible? If I have an emotional day does that me I am an unstable person? These are the questions that have been on my mind today as I marvel my recent epiphany. If I were to apply this concept to my life there would be a major shift in the way I go about living, for the better. It is truly a humbling, peaceful, and liberating concept. These are somethings I have to think about and I would advise you do the same.
I hope you all can do some inner reflecting and arrive at a liberating and peaceful state that – situations are situations not descriptions of who and what you are. Overgeneralizing can really make you feel insecure in heart. We should strive to overcome our limiting mindset to live more freely. I am with you!
Hello friends. Today is a unique day for me. Today is the day I realized just how important it is to be grateful. The word is so full. I want to give a brief description of what it means to be to have gratitude before I dive into an example and give remarks.
My personal definition for Gratitude is to be thankful for what you have and thankful for the situations you currently occupy. Google search engine defines gratitude as, the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciate for and to return kindness. Last, but not least, Merriam- Websters gratitude definition is, a feeling of appreciation or thanks. There are certainly more definition out there for Gratitude, but I want to give just enough so you all can get the gist of what it is to have Gratitude.
This morning I woke up to my oldest child asking for food. He wanted cereal, but we didn’t have any, so he asked for oat meal. I got up to make the oat meal, and since I love my children dearly, I decided to cut some strawberries up and put them on top. After all of his complaints this morning about being hungry, I assured him that the food was almost ready and that I added some strawberries. As I walked out of his room I hear “AAAWWW strawberries…” I quickly turned around and had a conversation with him about gratitude and how it is extremely important. I expressed to him how those around the world could only wish they had what we have. I also expressed to him how I would not allow him to eat until he found a better attitude. So, being the loving mother that I am, I made him and his brother separate their laundry while giving thanks for every item (including underwear). As I was in the kitchen I heard “thank you for the underwear; thank you for the shirt.” lol. I laughed to myself, but it was good medicine for the both of them. After about 7 minutes of this, both my boys finished the laundry and came out with different attitudes. Not only that, they both came to my room to tell me how they were thankful for the food and it was the best food yet! Wow! Gratitude is special.
Our lives are beautiful, so rich and full. We are blessed with luxuries and privileges that not all people have. We have clothes, homes, Health, friends, families, food, showers, toilets, stoves, the beautiful and nurturing universe, technology and the list goes on and on and on and on. We need to tap more into our bountifulness rather than what we lack. Because if you really look at it, we lack nothing in this moment. The universe if uniquely set up in that those who are grateful will be lavished with even more. Have you ever seen a complainer get all things? Do you even like to be around someone who complains all of the time? Me either! There is a reason for that! A person who does not acknowledge their abundance is nearsighted. Period. Live rich today! Be grateful today. My favorite saying is “Mommy Universe I am content” and “God the Father I am content.”
This morning I woke up and for some reason I felt a little down. I reached for my phone and no text, no missed call, and no social media alert. I immediately thought to myself…”hmm this is why I feel the way I do.” Really I did. However, the night before I went to bed warding off all “negative” feelings and told myself it’s fine, I just need to stop being so negative. And I slept. It was no wonder I woke up feeling the way I did. After about 15 minutes of being woke and sitting in my bed trying to sort through my feelings, I decided to meditate. While meditating I heard, in my spirit, “you’re neglecting yourself.” This nearly threw me through a loop because it was so powerful and so very true.
The definition of neglect, according to google search engine, is- fail to care for properly. Neglect is the single most dominant reason as to why we feel depressed and sad. Take a look at your life and think of a time you actually took the time to care for your needs. This is not in a selfish way, but in a spiritual way. What I mean is actually tuning into how you’re feeling and listening to your inner most being. This is dealing with that check engine light as soon as it comes on and not ignoring it as if not paying it any mind will somehow fix it. If you are the type of person who believes dealing with an issue will only make is worse, I’d caution you to really analyze why you feel this way and to ultimately debunk this notion by surrendering to a higher form of thinking. This higher form of thinking could be the antidote that you need to finally heal. Pay attention to those areas in your life that seem to always show up and feed off “negativity.” This same “negativity” might be trying to tell you something. You will only understand when you tune in.
Please comment down below to let me know your thoughts. How do you tune in?
What does “letting it go” mean? Many of us have been told by someone in our lives to just “let it go.” If you’re like me, the whole idea of “letting it go”is bothersome. For one, it is so very confusing. I mean what exactly is “let it go” anyways? It’s vague, and for many of us it’s cliche. For some of us who believe we have it down and are eager to get to the “letting it go”, technicality hinders us from moving forward. How exactly do I let it go? Further, when someone directs you to “let it go”, it is usually because an event is totally out of your control or/and does not serve you in the least. So just how do we understand the meaning in it’s entirety?
When it comes to “letting it go” I believe the concept and the beauty of it of it has been watered down. What was originally our best friend that gave us stability, peace and hope has frustrated and confused us. Why? Well because the concept of letting go is wrongly defined. Letting it go may have been confused with training yourself to not think about it and just ignore the feeling. That is not letting it go. That is suppressing it and once it gets tired of trying to come up a route you have sealed and blocked off, it will come through another route. The first thing we must do is to define the true meaning of the concept.
Letting it go is the act of allowing what is hurting you to move throw and out of you. Walk with me for a moment. When you have to throw up do you suppress it by holding it in so that it cannot get out? Or do you release it knowing that it will be painful, but will relieve you once it’s all out? Most of us can agree that the second option here is the winner. Well, this exact concept applies to your emotions. Allowing yourself to feel what ever it is that is holding you down/captive will release it. Your body is a flowing machine. Why would we look at our unseen any differently. To Heal You Have To Feel. Or if that example does not strike you let’s turn to the heart. The heart pumps blood in and out of itself moment by moment. Any blockages to this process are deadly. Need I say more?
It is crucial to understand the meaning of “letting it go.” It was life changing for me once I learned it and applied it. This is completely from my spirit and application. I’ve been so wrong all these years and I want to help whomever needs it out there. I know it’s a struggle especially when you’re a completely confused about it all. I truly hope this was helpful to you all. If you’d like the technical aspects of letting go, please comment down below!